I am in no way old enough or wise enough to give anyone advice about life. I’m no Grandmother Willow, yo. But I feel like graduating from college and floundering out here in reality for a little while has opened my eyes to some things that I maybe didn’t see before. Although I’m sure this time in my life is yet another chapter that I can look back on and think “Wow, I was a total fucking idiot.” But, maybe that’s not a bad thing. Sometimes you have to be a total fucking idiot in order to learn how to not be a total fucking idiot (should I embroider that on a pillow?). Anyway, here are some tid bits I’ve picked up along the way so far (and Lord knows I have a long way to go):
1. I guarantee that you have at least one friend that doesn’t really listen to you. You can talk endlessly about what’s going on in their life, but when it comes to you and your issues or stories or successes, they don’t ever really give you the time of day. Let them go.
2. It’s okay to divert from any life plans you have previously made. At any stage in your life. Starting from scratch is terrifying but sometimes it’s necessary to find your happiness.
3. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll put you there.
4. Mom was probably right.
5. But don’t be afraid to challenge the ideals you were brought up with.
6. College is the best damn time of your life.
7. Life is delicate. Young people die. It’s unfair. But it does happen. And there isn’t always a way to anticipate it. But it’s important to be aware that just because you’re young doesn’t mean you’re invincible.
8. If something terrifies you, it’s probably worth doing.
9. Your GPA literally doesn’t matter. It also doesn’t really matter what you major in (unless you know you want to go into something that requires a super specialized degree). Just study something you enjoy. You’re going to be terrified and manically looking for jobs come graduation no matter what you major in.
10. Just tell people the truth.
11. Ask yourself, “will this matter in a year?” If the answer is no, let it go.
And last but not least:
12. Don’t ever think you’ve learned all that there is to learn. About anything.